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Men and Women's Sexual Experiences


Female Sexuality, Orgasm and Sex

The detailed process by which women reach orgasm is reached has been studied many times but still remains a bit obscure.

We have found that about 20 percent of the women in our survey indicated that the usual arousal sequence is for the husband first to stimulate the clitoris manually or orally, which may or may not produce orgasm, and then to insert his penis to produce further stimulation, which nearly always brings him to orgasm and ejaculation, and sometimes results in both partners achieving orgasm.

About 95 percent of women said they attain orgasm either before or after their husbands and primarily through manual or oral clitoral stimulation.

When very specific questions were asked about the timing of wife and husband orgasm, it was found that 5 percent of the women reach orgasm at the same time as their spouses, with 70 percent attaining orgasm before and 25 percent coming after their husbands have ejaculated.

The women in the various samples indicated that clitoral stimulation is highly important to them in reaching orgasm. Over 75 percent ascribed either great or indispensable value to clitoral arousal.

Further, it is clear that clitoral and vaginal stimulation are perceived quite differently by most of the women, who typically regard one of the two as relatively more exciting; or they experience one rather than the other as possessing some special quality (e.g. warmth, "deep feeling," throbbing).

Although it may be true that vaginal stimulation achieves much of its effect by its indirect arousal of the clitoris, one can still say that the experienced quality of the vaginal and clitoral experiences differs. They do not feel alike.

Whether this is caused by differences in the angle of penetration and type of touch involved or by differences arising out of the psychological implications of being penetrated or not being penetrated (or holding an organ of another person within oneself versus not doing so) is unclear.

Detailed Descriptions of Intercourse and Sexual Arousal

When men and women are asked to communicate the nature of their experience during sexual arousal by giving brief answers or making numerical judgments in response to questionnaires, a good deal is lost by condensation inevitably required by such a format. In an attempt to document in its full qualitative complexity the nature of sexual arousal in men and women, we gave women who answered our survey these instructions:

"Please give a detailed description of how you usually attain orgasm. Describe particularly the body sensations you experience, the thoughts that pass through your mind, your feelings, your attitudes, any difficulties you have, and so forth. Also describe in detail how you feel about five minutes after you attain orgasm. Please write as much as you can."

Most of the women who participated in this study were able to give full descriptions of how they became sexually aroused, reach orgasm, and the subjective states accompanying it. Here's what we found....the following excerpts have been chosen so as to constitute a representative cross-section of the descriptions that were collected. They have been edited for conciseness and clarity.

Excerpt 1

To have the most enjoyable time in bed I prefer the setting to be romantic and pleasant. My husband is usually in a sexually  "aggressive-assertive" mood - which I prefer. I like to feel in a playful mood - and to talk and fool around for a while instead of getting right down to serious sex. I like a wide variety of foreplay including cunnilingus, fellatio, some anal stimulation occasionally. I like to feel as if my husband is paying strict attention to me and my pleasure - treating me like his queen.

This is a selfish attitude - and of course I'm not treated like this all the time - but it is important to me to at least have this frame of mind. The physical actions can really fit the mental actions if you really believe this is the way things are. I like to feel relaxed and secure during sex. That makes my orgasm easier. I prefer to be held, petted, and in general treated gently. The orgasm itself builds from the foreplay.

Should he find that he has difficulty reaching orgasm, a condition known as delayed ejaculation, my husband will always seek to increase the level of sexual stimulation he receives during our lovemaking y asking me to stimulate his penis orally. This tends to give him the additional excitement he needs to reach orgasm quickly, and so overcome his delayed ejaculation. Often I have an orgasm during the foreplay - but prefer to have one during intercourse.

Often I have orgasms - sometimes of lesser intensity - during foreplay then experience another during intercourse. The sensation of the orgasm is of mounting tension and warmth followed by a desire for more (of whatever happening at the moment) until finally a release and satisfaction is attained. Sometimes he will ask me to provide him with a way to come quickly - click here to find out what this superb cure for delayed ejaculation actually is.

When in a face to face position for sex I prefer my husband to look at me - and this heightens the orgasm. It doesn't bother me too much if I don't achieve orgasm - which isn't very often - because the sex was pleasurable anyway and I really enjoy seeing my husband have fun as he fucks me. I do feel a little disappointed - but think the next time will be better. The sex positions advice found here was spot on: try new positions regularly and if the man has a high sex drive and the woman a low sex drive, she must let him have his way to keep him happy.

[Ed: That parochial view of male and female sexuality is certainly a strange one to modern ears. But it demonstrated clearly that some men and women still hold fast to a traditional view of human sexuality which dictates that the man must "satisfy" the woman during sexual activity.

However, This view of sexuality is probably responsible for poor communication, failed relationships, and a lack of sexual fulfillment. I also suspect that it is responsible for many men failing to get to grips with sexual difficulties such as delayed ejaculation and premature ejaculation. If you are a man and wish to step outside these old gender dysfunctional interpretations of sexuality, check out the nature and treatment of sexual dysfunction - specifically delayed ejaculation -here.

After lovemaking I usually fall asleep mainly because I'm tired. But if we do stay awake for awhile the sensation is one of laziness, euphoria - sort of a floating, drifting, luxurious feeling. It is probably the happiest time of day. I feel very secure, time seems suspended, and I feel as if I have no cares.

Many an inexperienced woman approaches coitus itself with fear. but knowing that it opens up paths to a fuller life, proceeds with it. In precisely the same way women regard as desirable such perfectly normal love-play as we have discussed, provided that they accept the fact that there is nothing unacceptable about such practices.

Men are more likely to seek sexual guidance than women. They feel - rightly - that they have to play the part of the initiator and guide. But since women are far more the victims of inhibitions produced by faulty teaching and a hypocritical attitude towards sex, they, even more than men, need guidance.

A woman who is ignorant of sexual technique must be guided slowly into it, with intimate caresses, and these should come naturally and at the right moment. The right moment is when her initial fear has been overcome and she is ready to co-operate rather than remain passive. She will, at an early stage, show plainly by her attitude and movements that she desires such forms of stimulation. This can convey, more plainly than words, what a woman desires.

Direct stimulation by means of the kiss is not, of course, limited to that form in which the man plays the active role. The woman may stimulate her partner in precisely the same manner. Here again, her instinctive reserve will generally be a guide as to when such a caress will help, and not seem lacking in delicacy. Again, too, the degree of experience of both partners will play a part.

Up to the present we have been concerned mainly with active love-play - forms of stimulation in which one of the partners has played an active role, or in which both have shared actively. Generally overlooked, but important, since many practice it, is the passive contact of bodies.

This may lead to sexual intercourse and generally there will be an intermediate stage in which some of the forms of love-play already described will be employed. But in itself it involves nothing beyond the contact of bodies. It consists of the partners resting together in any position in which their bodies touch.

Thus one partner may read, while the other may simply snuggle in quietly, or both may read or rest. Some lovers will remain thus for hours, doing nothing, yet their senses will be aroused by bodily contact, an experience which they find pleasurable.

Passive love-play, by the touching of bodies, makes them pleasurably conscious that they may be called to more active sexual relations. And the moment will come when one of them makes the first move of active love-play - perhaps a kiss, or a stroking of the love-mate's body, or simply the whispered words of love which bring to life the sexual desire which, in the passive-contact stage, has been only faintly felt.

The dividing line between the normal and the abnormal is exceedingly thin. The basic sexual impulse is there, but many people miss the way of normal love, and so it is not easy, nor is it likely to prove of practical help, to catalogue various sexual practices and follow the form of indicating the methods of normal love technique with indications as to how people enjoy them.

Excerpt 2

I almost always attain orgasm during lovemaking - the majority of the time I have multiple orgasms. My husband and I change sex positions about three times on the average during intercourse (sometimes this doesn't mean a total change in how we make love, just a shifting in one position, e.g., I may lift my legs and wrap them around his waist after having them straight down when he's on top). This change position stimulates different areas of his cock and my vagina - fortunately, it works that we both like the same angles of insertion at the same time.

Many times I'll reach orgasm in one position and then we'll shift and I'll reach orgasm again, etc., until my husband reaches his climax which in turn makes me climax again. The only times I don't reach orgasm like this are when my mind is on other things besides sex - if, for example, dinner is on the stove.

Sometimes I'll have reached orgasm a few times and be so tired I don't feel like continuing, but I want my husband to reach orgasm and ejaculate during sex so I'll force myself - then I'm usually happy about it and I know how to make myself orgasm again. If my husband has come too soon, I feel dissatisfied and want to feel him in me - often he isn't able to make love a second time after he has ejaculated. I like to think of delayed ejaculation as something that never bothered us, and certainly not something that we need to take account of in our lovemaking. This would certainly leave me frustrated.

Orgasm for me usually involves getting more and more tense until the final release and then it drops down slowly. Actually I wish that release was more violent at times. Usually my orgasms are short periods of about 15 seconds (although they have seemed much longer sometimes) of an intense tingling-all-over-feeling. Sometimes it would be nice if they were shorter - about 5 seconds but more violent.

Once this happened - when it was like a convulsive thing and I involuntarily and unconsciously screamed - and I really enjoyed it...One thing about my orgasms - I feel like biting or grabbing something really hard and my husband's back sometimes gets pretty scratched. he never ejaculates too soon, happily, but if he did I know there is good information out there - see, for example, for more information on this thorny subject!

Usually after orgasm I feel like I have to urinate and almost always go to the bathroom then. By the time I get out my husband is half asleep and soon fall asleep myself. If we have sex during the day we usually fall asleep then (we don't get as much sleep as we need), but often we get dressed and go out if it's the beginning of the day. At any rate, we both like to relax together for a little while afterwards.

Excerpt 3

My husband and I usually start out when we have sex in a side by side position. He does some foreplay, kisses around my face and breasts but usually moves on quickly to more intense stimulation. Often we are holding a conversation at this point so I won't want him to stimulate me in any part of the pelvic area since I'm not really concentrating on sex. The conversations tend to put me in a good mood, though, so when they stop they leave me relaxed and more sensitive.

When my husband starts foreplay in the pelvic region I begin being responsive. Before this time I'll play with his hair and stroke his body but until I am relaxed enough I don't like to touch his penis. After I have started responding I no longer feel this way and enjoy stroking his penis.

Occasionally I feel if my husband would just move his hands slightly over, up or down, I would be stimulated better and quicker. Sometimes he does but often I can't get him to the right spot on my clitoris. Since I don't verbalize well at this time -  my not opening my mouth and his inability to guess what to do angers me and I end up impatient for orgasm.

Also I often take quite long to become sexually aroused. If I feel my husband is anxious, or think he is, or believe I am just taking too long, I also get angry at myself and impatient. Either way the result is of course to slow things down even more - once or twice to a standstill. I think he also needs to learn more about ejaculation control, because he is pretty quick off the mark when he ejaculates. He needs to discuss the effects of premature ejaculation on me to understand how upsetting it is.

When my husband stimulates me in the clitoral region I usually get a tickling sensation. It is next to the clitoris I want him to do most of his fingering. I usually find myself quite intently concentrating on what sensation I am feeling and how I would like him to move over his stimulation and where. After the tickling sensation - as my husband stimulates me faster - I get a tingling in my legs which spreads up and kind of hits my head. This is of course stronger at some times than at others - occasionally it is almost painful.

Immediately after this happens the clitoral region is extremely sensitive and I don't want it touched. Usually I orgasm soon after this as he rubs his hands over my whole vulva region. Then we have sexual intercourse. During this time I usually get great satisfaction from his enjoyment - since I've had mine. (I found if I waited to try for an orgasm during intercourse I did not reach orgasm which left me very tense and irritable.) Rarely do I want him to hurry up and get it over. I love having him fuck me.

When we are finished I lie in the crook of his arm. I am very relaxed and in a good mood, feel very loving - not just sexually - toward my husband. I usually fall asleep quite quickly though occasionally if he has stimulated my G spot enough I get the giggles and feel playful - but tired. I find that the next day I am also more cheerful and relaxed and friendly in general. (On the other hand, if I have not attained orgasm I lie awake for quite awhile, irritated and wake the next morning still irritated, so I make sure this doesn't happen very often.)

Excerpt 4

We kiss deeply. I usually prefer undressing each other, but this depends on the circumstances. My husband fondles and kisses my breasts a great deal which I find quite exciting early in the experience (later, when I'm in a more excited state, my breasts do not add much). Sometimes, early in the sexual experience, I must concentrate on what we are doing and consciously rid my mind of other thoughts in order to be really sexually responsive.

I am nearly always successful in doing this. I like to have my husband breathing into my ear as it helps me if I'm having trouble concentrating and it excites me physically and emotionally to know he is sexually aroused and excited. if you want to know how to reach orgasm easily, check out www.orgasmbycommandreview.com for the best sexual tips, tricks and techniques.

We spend most of the foreplay manipulating and/or kissing each other's sexual organs. This kissing is extremely exciting and I often reach orgasm once or twice at this time. The sensation is of bursting and flowing suddenly; I feel very appreciative and in love. If this is the case, my husband will wait for my orgasm to subside and then re-excite me with his penis sensitivity reduced somewhat by use of anesthetic like stud100.

We then have intercourse during which I sometimes have what I suppose is a mild orgasm - I become tense and excited again, though not to as great a degree as earlier and there is a fainter bursting release about the time of my husband's orgasm. If at this point, I do not experience another orgasmic release, I nevertheless find it quite easy to relax after my husband's ejaculated.

If I do not reach orgasm before intercourse, intercourse lasts longer with my husband withdrawing a number of times during it. This prevents premature ejaculation before I am satisfied and intensifies my excitement and prolongs my husband's and we generally reach a climax together. However, there have been times when my husband has been unable to reach orgasm during sex this way (which practically never happens the other way).

This orgasm is deeper somehow. It takes a great deal more physical energy and is more emotionally satisfying in that I feel more at-oneness with my husband. Five minutes after either of these types of orgasms, I feel very relaxed, at peace, cleansed. I feel very affectionate in a very deep and meaningful (as opposed to flirtatious) way. I nearly always fall asleep, if only for a half hour. I very much dislike having to get out of bed immediately for any reason. When I awake I may have a yeast infection but I can find a cure here.


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