How to make a woman orgasmInterrelationships of Orgasm and Also Post-orgasm Feeling StatesAre certain feelings during and after orgasm are related to the presence or absence of other feelings? For example, if a woman says that orgasm makes her feel "ecstatic" does it also make her feel "happy" and "satisfied" but not "tense" and "strange"? In actual fact, the only two consistent findings for the "ecstatic" feeling were that it is greatest in those women who rank themselves lowest with reference to being "tense" and feeling "strange" during orgasm. However, it should also be added that other aspects of the data indicate that the woman who is most likely to feel "ecstatic" during orgasm is also likely to have orgasms of high strength and to perceive herself as requiring a relatively brief period of time to bring a woman to orgasm. When one looks at the feeling state correlates of "unsatisfied" during orgasm, one finds no consistencies. The woman who feels most satisfied during orgasm is not the one who feels most "ecstatic" or the most "as if I will burst" or the least "tense." Incidentally, she is the one most likely to feel satisfied five minutes after orgasm, and it should be added that she also tends to have orgasms of high strength. That is, greater satisfaction does go along with a perception of the orgasm as being physiologically intense. There were miscellaneous consistencies in relationships among the various other qualitative terms used to describe feeling states during and after orgasm, but they were scattered and not particularly meaningful. Therefore, space will not be taken to specify them. Strength of Orgasm and "Multiple" Orgasms As PredictorsTwo aspects of a woman's orgasm experience stand out as being especially predictive of other of its aspects. One is the degree of strength she ascribes to her average orgasm. The greater her rating of its strength the more consistently she achieves orgasm, the more overall sexually responsive she considers herself to be, the more she experiences orgasm as "ecstatic", the more satisfied she is during orgasm, the more intense her vaginal pulsations during orgasm, and the longer the duration of orgasm. A second noteworthy predictive aspect is the frequency with which more than one orgasm has been typically experienced within a one-hour period. The greater a woman's frequency in this respect the more sexually responsive she rates herself , the greater her enjoyment of masturbation, the greater the average strength of her orgasms, and the greater the average duration of her orgasms. It is interesting that this variable did not prove to be correlated with consistency of orgasm. But note that it was positively correlated with enjoyment of masturbation, and, in fact, is the only sexual variable which correlates with any aspect of masturbatory behavior. It is apparent that knowledge of the average strength of her orgasms and, to a lesser extent, of whether a woman achieves, or her partner makes a woman orgasm, more than one orgasm in a relatively brief period with any frequency provides a good basis for predicting a number of other primary aspects of her orgasmic related behavior. With these two indices one can predict her orgasm consistency, her overall feeling about her sexual responsiveness, the likelihood that she will extract ecstatic enjoyment from orgasm and feel satisfied after its occurrence, the average duration of her orgasms, and the intensity of accompanying vaginal pulsations. Intercourse Frequency CorrelatesIt should be more clearly spelled out how actual and preferred intercourse frequencies are related to the other sexual variables. One finds that sexual intercourse frequency is positively correlated with how sexually responsive a woman considers herself to be, positively correlated with her preferred intercourse frequency, and positively correlated with the average number of intercourse positions she and her husband use per month. Preferred intercourse frequency shows exactly the same correlational pattern. What is striking about these findings is how limited are the relationships of the two frequency measures to any of the other sexual variables. Only a woman's feelings about her overall degree of sexual responsiveness tell us whether she will participate in a low versus high amount of intercourse. None of a multitude of other variables seems to have predictive value in this respect. One cannot anticipate a woman's intercourse frequency in terms of whether she finds intercourse painful or satisfying or productive of ecstatic sensations or leading to strong orgasms. Miscellaneous It is noteworthy that some of the sexual measures seem to be related to none, or at most to a few, of the other measures obtained. Amount of imagery - sexual fantasy - during intercourse correlates with none of the other sexual measures. Amount of pain during intercourse correlates significantly with only one other measure (negatively with how sexually responsive a woman considers herself to be). The degree to which arousal during foreplay is focalized in one area versus another (for example, vagina versus clitoris) is unrelated to any of the other measures. Number of minutes to attain orgasm after intercourse begins is unrelated to all other variables except one (the longer the time the lower the probability of feeling ecstatic during orgasm).
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