Female Sexual Experiences
My husband and I usually start out when we have sex in a side by side position. He does some foreplay, kisses around my face and breasts but usually moves on quickly to more intense stimulation. This change of position provides new stimulation and allows us to experiment with various angles of penetration. (Suggestions for men about how you can ensure you can give a woman an orgasm can be read here.) Orgasm for me usually involves increasing tension until final release with slow resolution. Obviously ejaculation may happen far too quickly for some men - those with premature ejaculation. Fortunately if this applies to you, you can always seek out a therapeutic solution such as those offered at www.datinglovingliving.com where different premature ejaculation cures are analyzed and considered.
Often we are holding a conversation at this point so I won't want him to stimulate me in any part of the pelvic area since I'm not really concentrating on sex. The conversations tend to put me in a good mood, though, so when they stop they leave me relaxed and more sensitive.
When my husband starts foreplay in the pelvic region I begin being responsive. Before this time I'll play with his hair and stroke his body but until I am relaxed enough I don't like to touch his penis. After I have started responding I no longer feel this way and enjoy stroking his penis.
Occasionally I feel if my husband would just move his hands slightly over, up or down, I would be stimulated better and quicker. Sometimes he does but often I can't get him to the right spot on my clitoris.
Since I don't verbalize well at this time - my not opening my mouth and his inability to guess what to do angers me and I end up impatient for orgasm.
Also I often take quite long to become sexually aroused. If I feel my husband is anxious, or think he is, or believe I am just taking too long, I also get angry at myself and impatient.
Either way the result is of course to slow things down even more - once or twice to a standstill. I think he also needs to learn more about ejaculation control, because he is pretty quick off the mark when he ejaculates. He needs to discuss the effects of premature ejaculation on me to understand how upsetting it is.
When my husband stimulates me in the clitoral region I usually get a tickling sensation. It is next to the clitoris I want him to do most of his fingering. I usually find myself quite intently concentrating on what sensation I am feeling and how I would like him to move over his stimulation and where.
After the tickling sensation - as my husband stimulates me faster - I get a tingling in my legs which spreads up and kind of hits my head. This is of course stronger at some times than at others - occasionally it is almost painful.
Immediately after this happens the clitoral region is extremely sensitive and I don't want it touched. Usually I orgasm soon after this as he rubs his hands over my whole vulva region. Then we have sexual intercourse. During this time I usually get great satisfaction from his enjoyment - since I've had mine.
(I found if I waited to try for an orgasm during intercourse I did not reach orgasm which left me very tense and irritable.) Rarely do I want him to hurry up and get it over. I love having him fuck me.
When we are finished I lie in the crook of his arm. I am very relaxed and in a good mood, feel very loving - not just sexually - toward my husband. I usually fall asleep quite quickly though occasionally if he has stimulated my G spot enough I get the giggles and feel playful - but tired. I find that the next day I am also more cheerful and relaxed and friendly in general.
(On the other hand, if I have not attained orgasm I lie awake for quite awhile, irritated and wake the next morning still irritated, so I make sure this doesn't happen very often.)
Many an inexperienced woman approaches coitus itself with fear. but knowing that it opens up paths to a fuller life, proceeds with it. In precisely the same way women regard as desirable such perfectly normal love-play as we have discussed, provided that they accept the fact that there is nothing unacceptable about such practices.
Men are more likely to seek sexual guidance than women. They feel - rightly - that they have to play the part of the initiator and guide. But since women are far more the victims of inhibitions produced by faulty teaching and a hypocritical attitude towards sex, they, even more than men, need guidance.
A woman who is ignorant of sexual technique must be guided slowly into it, with intimate caresses, and these should come naturally and at the right moment.
The right moment is when her initial fear has been overcome and she is ready to co-operate rather than remain passive. She will, at an early stage, show plainly by her attitude and movements that she desires such forms of stimulation. This can convey, more plainly than words, what a woman desires.
Direct stimulation by means of the kiss is not, of course, limited to that form in which the man plays the active role. The woman may stimulate her partner in precisely the same manner. Here again, her instinctive reserve will generally be a guide as to when such a caress will help, and not seem lacking in delicacy. Again, too, the degree of experience of both partners will play a part.
Up to the present we have been concerned mainly with active love-play - forms of stimulation in which one of thepartners has played an active role, or in which both have shared actively. Generally overlooked, but important, since many practice it, is the passive contact of bodies.
We kiss deeply. I usually prefer undressing each other, but this depends on the circumstances. My husband fondles and kisses my breasts a great deal which I find quite exciting early in the experience (later, when I'm in a more excited state, my breasts do not add much).
Sometimes, early in the sexual experience, I must concentrate on what we are doing and consciously rid my mind of other thoughts in order to be really sexually responsive.
I am nearly always successful in doing this. I like to have my husband breathing into my ear as it helps me if I'm having trouble concentrating and it excites me physically and emotionally to know he is sexually aroused and excited. if you want to know how to reach orgasm easily, check out this website on ejaculation control for the best sexual tips, tricks and techniques.
We spend most of the foreplay manipulating and/or kissing each other's sexual organs. This kissing is extremely exciting and I often reach orgasm once or twice at this time.
The sensation is of bursting and flowing suddenly; I feel very appreciative and in love. If this is the case, my husband will wait for my orgasm to subside and then re-excite me with his penis sensitivity reduced somewhat by use of anesthetic like stud100.
We then have intercourse during which I sometimes have what I suppose is a mild orgasm - I become tense and excited again, though not to as great a degree as earlier and there is a fainter bursting release about the time of my husband's orgasm. If at this point, I do not experience another orgasmic release, I nevertheless find it quite easy to relax after my husband's ejaculated.
If I do not reach orgasm before intercourse, intercourse lasts longer with my husband withdrawing a number of times during it. This prevents premature ejaculation before I am satisfied and intensifies my excitement and prolongs my husband's and we generally reach a climax together.
However, there have been times when my husband has been unable to reach orgasm during sex this way (which practically never happens the other way).
This orgasm is deeper somehow. It takes a great deal more physical energy and is more emotionally satisfying in that I feel more at-oneness with my husband. Five minutes after either of these types of orgasms, I feel very relaxed, at peace, cleansed.
I feel very affectionate in a very deep and meaningful (as opposed to flirtatious) way. I nearly always fall asleep, if only for a half hour. I very much dislike having to get out of bed immediately for any reason. Have a yeast infection? (If so, read more here.)